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My friend has the life I want

Posted by Patricia_Marie
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on Friday, 28 July 2017
Dear Patricia Marie,

My friend has the life I want. We met at university where we were both studying the same subject. Since then she has always been one step ahead of me. She secured a job first at a place where I also applied for a position, has a lovely husband, 2 children and a beautiful house. I hardly get to see her now and miss the times we used to share. Meanwhile, I am struggling to pay my bills and don't seem to have the time for a relationship. I have been trying to just get on with everything, but I am now feeling completely stuck and resent my friend for having the 'perfect life'.

I believe that it's not so much that your jealous of your friend for what she has, but now that her family prioritise her attention, it's more the friendship your missing and fearful of losing. Speak with her and suggest whilst you fully understand she has commitments to her family, it would be good to spend some time together as her friendship is very important to you.

By writing to me you have taken an important step in acknowledging you are not happy with your life. Make this a turning point. Yes, your friend will always be special as you have shared your growing years together, but you need to start meeting others with whom you can now share more common interests. Start looking for a new job that pays more and will offer you a change of environment. This will enable you to meet new people and also improve your cash flow.

Patricia Marie says...

We can often be easily seduced by the fairytale of other people's lives and become blinded by the reality of how things really are. Remember that very true saying; 'the grass isn't always greener on the other side'. Have you considered your friend may be just as envious of you for different reasons? She has huge responsibilities, whereas you have lots of freedom to do as you please. You are so concerned with what you don't have, that you are failing to see what you do have. Be happy for her and see what she has achieved is something you can too, and more. Your life is full of great potential, but you will only find the happiness you are seeking when you stop comparing your life to your friend's and start embracing your own.
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China White enclosure at the Royal Henley Regatta

Posted by Young Ladies About Town
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on Wednesday, 26 July 2017
by Andrea Brown

The China White enclosure at the Royal Henley Regatta has once again proved to be one of the most exciting social events of the British Summer season.

China White kindly invited The Lady to revel in a day full of delicious cocktails and mouth-watering food all inside the glamourous riverfront garden enclosure.

The afternoon started with refreshing Grenall's gin and tonics in the main tent followed by a delightful high tea consisting of mini cucumber, smoked salmon and egg sandwiches.
The savoury scones with goat's cheese and onion relish were a definite stand out followed by a variety of incredibly delicious macarons, cakes and petit fours.

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The stunning weather made the riverfront garden the perfect spot to watch the races and sip on Grenall's Wild Berry Flora Dora cocktails before China White's infamous after party kicked off. We also indulged in the incredible street food. The pulled pork burger was our flavour of choice to give us the energy for an evening of dancing in the DJ tent. The amazing DJ sets from internationally acclaimed DJ's really picked up the vibe and made for a great end to an eventful and enjoyable afternoon.
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Schwarzkopf BC Bonacure Launch

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on Wednesday, 26 July 2017
by Annette Kellow 

Although I love hair products, conditioning treatments and pampering my locks, I have a confession to make that sometimes it all goes out the window when I get busy. I do try to look after my hair to keep on top of the maintenance but it doesn't always happen, resulting in dry ends that have a tendency to frizz (not a good look I must admit!)

Last week was one of those moments. I had a hair cut booked but had to cancel because of work commitments and because of that, I felt like it wasn't looking it's best. So when I had the opportunity to attend Easton Regal Hair Salon for the launch of the new Schwarzkopf BC Bonacure Micellar Cleansing Conditioners I meekly hoped there was something they could do.
I was greeted by a very friendly Gary Taylor, an award winning world champion in acclaimed hairdressing techniques and Schwarzkopf ambassador. After an in depth consultation he explained exactly how he was going to tame my wild tresses (there was light at the end of the tunnel after all!)

Gary informed me that BC Bonacure Cleansing Conditioner is a rotation of wash, otherwise known as a co-wash, and is a shampoo and conditioner in one, giving the hair a gentler yet perfected daily care. The co-wash regime enables the natural oils in the scalp to be restored using the Micellar Technology which lifts oils and dirt gently, transporting them through water. Because the hair is not being washed daily it doesn't strip the natural moisture of the hair and locks in natural shine.

It is also sulphate-free and is meant to be used every third wash, giving it the perfect blend of conditioning and cleansing.

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As he washed my hair, the aroma smelt like a heavenly mix of botanical flowers and also didn't lather (a sign of less harsh chemicals and more goodness to the hair follicle).

I also loved the way he washed my hair! He explained the technique of moving around the scalp in a massage like motion which by using the product can help reverse three years of damage to the hair.

I certainly needed it being that I dye my hair often and use heated rollers with setting lotion on a regular basis!

Gary also informed me that the product is good for people who like to 'live their life, are busy and don't always have the time,' (a perfect description of my everyday movements then!) as the product is not meant to be used every single wash.

Next came the styling. He gave my hair a long wavy blow dry with soft curls and a side sweep. His technique on drying the hair using a rounded brush resulted in instant waves and I tried to take notes so I could copy him back at home.

He didn't use very much product (something I have found other hairdressers sometimes pile on but doesn't keep the hair so fresh). By keeping it lighter and letting the BC Bonacure Cleansing do the work it would ensure my hair stays softer and shiner for longer.

I certainly did feel much happier after the mini-makeover that Gary gave me and that using the co-wash at home would also keep the transformation and maintenance going for longer. I had never used this type of product before but BC Bonacure has definitely changed my mind about washing when your off being a busy bee, especially as it makes people look like they've spent hours on their hair!

Schwarzkopf BC Bonacure Conditoners are currently available from Schwarzkopf retailers and salons.
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My boyfriend constantly puts me down

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on Friday, 21 July 2017
Dear Patricia Marie,

My boyfriend constantly puts me down, particularly when we are out with friends, and it is really starting to cause a problem. He says it is just his sarcastic sense of humour, and all his past girlfriends have found it amusing, but I am starting to lose my confidence when I am with him.

I am reasonably attractive, with a slim figure, but have always had low self esteem, ever since my mother walked out when I was 14 years old, and my father made it obvious I was a nuisance to him.

It has taken me a long time to accept myself as I am, and although I don't want to break up with him, I also don't want to start feeling bad about myself again. If I try to talk to him about it, he just gets angry, and says I have no sense of humour and that he is only joking, but he does seem to pick up on all the things I don't like about myself and make them into 'jokes'.

Is there anything I can do to make him stop?

Patricia Marie says...

People who constantly find fault in others, are generally insecure and unhappy within their own lives. It's unhealthy for any relationship to be filled with constant criticism and you need to let your partner aware of how much he is jeopardising yours. Perhaps he grew up with a critical parent, was bullied himself, or maybe he is carrying regrets or resentments from previous partners.

This man is able to make you feel worthless because you are allowing him to, and constantly facing such negativity is quite understandably wearing away your happiness. If you really want to salvage this partnership, calmly ask him why he feels the need to verbally attack and belittle you. I suggest you make it clear that you will not tolerate this behaviour any more. If he realises how much he is hurting you, and genuinely wants to address his issues, this will be a good start, but if not, you have to ask yourself why you would want to stay with a man who is making you so unhappy.

If you can't make a decision right now, have some time apart, to allow you to re-evaluate your feelings. It could be that your boyfriend's attitude has reignited in you painful memories from the past which you may not have dealt with at the time, and I therefore believe you could benefit from some counselling. This will empower you by building your self esteem, enabling you to think more clearly, and help you make better decisions both at this present time and in the future too.

You may come to a decision to sever ties, but remember, no relationship is ever a waste of time. If it doesn't bring you what you want, it teaches you what you don't want, and do keep in mind, all endings bring new beginnings.

I recommend you read: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, by Mira Kirshenbaum: A Step by Step Guide to Help You Decide to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship.
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Alexandria Imperiale Perfume Launch at Fortnum and Mason

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on Monday, 17 July 2017
by Annette Kellow

There is nothing more exquisite than entering the prestigious Fortnum and Mason store. From the two suited footmen holding candlesticks as you arrive, to the freshly made confectionary and the rows upon rows of deliciously boxed champagne- I always say nothing bad can ever happen there!

This week I was cordially invited to the launch of Xerjoff's Alexandria Imperiale perfume exclusively made for Fortnum and Mason (very tempting to say Fortnum's and Mason's but apparently that is rather frowned upon!)
Arriving at the prompt hour of 8am I was immediately ushered in by a very regal looking red suited doorman. The best part of this was that no one else was in the store and I had a clear view of the wonderland. You could hear a pin drop whilst there was a sense of magic in the stillness (and also the temptation to run around and go on a massive shopping spree).

I went up to the perfume floor to be greeted by the brand ambassador Costa, who looked and notably, smelt divine. He instantly took me on a mini-tour of the Xerjoff brand.
Alexandria Imperiale is a couture perfume created by Sergio Mimi which has beautiful hints of rose, lavander and cardamom. It comes from the Xerjoff brand which Sergio founded 10 years ago.

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Alexandra Imperiale comes from the Oud Stars collection which is created with distinguished distillations and pure Oud from the plantations of Laos.

The extensive research and limited production of Oud Stars has been developed with the firm intention of creating a special luxurious creative collection, of this perfume emulates in abundance.

I also love that is quite a glamorous scent and Costa informed me the layering technique is often used with Xerjoff to create a profound long lasting essence.
Otherwise known as 'Fragrance cocktailing' it doesn't mean to start spritzing all your leftover perfumes on (as I imagined a new use for all my old ones that I'd chucked in the bottom of my drawer!) but creating a balanced fresh scent, which Costa is highly trained in.

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And please can we just talk about the bottle! Encasing a fusion of nature, passion and artistry, the gold leaf style sweeping lid and beautiful burgundy bottle give it the allure of a jewel amongst treasure.

After a little layering, it was time for some feasting. Fortnum and Mason laid out the most beautiful spread including fruit granola, pain au chocolate, hot cross buns, juices and coffee which of course I heartily indulged in. I can see why Fortnums food department has been raved about since 1738 and rumour has it even the Royal family are fans.

I couldn't resist trying it all and when Costa noticed me nibbling he said, 'Darling your having so much fun eating, if I ate that much I would have to wear two pairs of Spanx!'

I probably should have listened to him but at least I was wafting with delicious Xerjoff perfume- so I suppose all was not lost.
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