Just as no one admits to being a bad driver or a lukewarm lover so it is that we find it hard to put our hand up to being out of integrity. Yet this is no brain twister – you are either in integrity or you are not. It’s that simple.
So how can you tell? When you are out of integrity life’s “stuff” seems to conspire against you – people, bills, bad debts, relationships, and your health. You find yourself reacting in a bad way to others, life starts to feel something you endure rather than enjoy and there’s a sense that something is missing.
There are many ways we can fool ourselves to avoid being authentic. Blaming others, things or circumstances or feeling “why bother?” and employing blithe but potentially damaging carelessness with yourself or others.
Here are some common examples of being a person out of integrity or, as I like to call it, an absurd person singular:
- Not returning calls when you say you will
- In fact any time you say you are going to do something and fail to do so as you said you would
- Parking in disabled spaces (even if you are going to be on minute)
- Not returning the supermarket trolley (you know who you are!)
- Any addictions or health damaging habits
- Any part of your life you are not taking responsibility for
- Victim thinking
- Using excuses frequently
- Being routinely late for meetings socially and professionally
- Worrying debt issues
- Corporate theft (taking home stationery, diddling your expenses, hidden extras you charge clients)
- Regularly not delivering on your promises
- Acting the ingénue
- Often trying “get away” with bad behavior/things
- Emotional infidelity – flirting, eye-chasing attractive strangers
- Not doing your share (and knowing it)
- Feeling resentful
- Attracting destructive people
- Avoiding
If you are feeling a little uncomfortable reading some of these things - don’t worry, you are not alone.
Re-Integrate Your Integrity or Owning Up and Showing Up
Here’s the how-to tool kit to raise your mood, restore your self-esteem, fill up your confidence and allay that inner critic. Being in integrity with yourself means restoring inner peace and finding you are no longer in conflict but in harmony with your world. Oh and you sleep better too.
Make a list of the 10 ways you are currently not in integrity.
- Get to the source of each and every item; resolve all fully
- Make a commitment to start living in integrity, as you see it.
- Let go of at least 10 shoulds, coulds, woulds, oughts, wills.
- Start getting 50% more reserve than you feel you need.
- Stop hanging out with people who are harmful.
- Eliminate adrenaline and other unhealthy “rushes” in your life.
- Let go of everything that you know is not good for you.
- “Get” that being authentic feels so much better than “hiding”
If you want to get life to feel great and restore some real meaning and purpose why not take the next step and book a 30 minute f’ree trial session today.