The Waiting Game of Misery

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What are you waiting for? No, really, where are you right now in the Waiting Room of Misery? Are you waiting for your staggering genius and talent to be discovered; for the phone to ring with offers of opportunity, advancement and lovely loads of lucre? Perhaps you are biding time for the moon to be in the 7th house to start that diet/exercise regime which will rid you of the daily podge-poke and raise your self-esteem levels. Some of us are hanging around for a sign that the time is right, a certain person is The One, the market is ripe for our brilliant business idea and for our brains to give us the green light to live a life we will love.

It can dominate our every thought it can mean we await every call, door bell ring, text or ping of an email with a heart full of dread, joy or trepidation. Waiting for scary medical test results, to hear from someone you desperately miss or to hear the outcome of a job interview or book/script submission can be a sort of psychic agony. On many levels the waiting game is a major part of life and it sucks on every level.  We can order anything we want in the world with a click of a mouse so why do we have to wait? Oh why?

Get on with it, hurry up, fast track me to the outcome, I beg thee, please.

We need to know and NOW!

Our desire to control the future and outcomes creates a resistance which hurts and can lead to depression and a disappointment that life is not delivering on the order we cosmically placed.

Here are a few thoughts which may help you as you play the waiting game.

  1. Please take this on - no one is going to save or rescue you no matter how many dime store romances you have read.
  2. We can control a lot less in life than we think.  Stop hurting yourself trying.
  3. Sometimes we need to learn to float and go with the flow.   Attack water and distrust it and we drown. So, relax and trust the process. Resistance, Mr Bond, is futile!
  4. Acceptance is the salve for the unknown.
  5. There is power in patience. 
  6. Actively live in the moment despite waiting for the outcome. Don't waste another day you will never have again living in anxiety of the future.
  7. Trust yourself that whatever the outcome you will handle it as you have done countless times in the past. 
  8. Keep your thoughts to the positive. Don't dip into despair or feel victimised (“why me?”) by your waiting. 
  9. Know that all will be made clear one day. 
  10. What can you learn or do as you go through this time?  How might you grow from this?
  11. You are not alone. We are all hoping, wishing, praying, wanting, waiting and fingers-crossing – the future will claim us in its own time.

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